Posted: 4:27 pm Monday, July 24th, 2017
By Kyle Taylor
If you ever wondered if those in a band pay attention to the crowd or even know what city they’re performing in on a given night, Circa Survive’s Brendan Ekstrom just proved otherwise. Not only did he see something in the crowd at a recent show in St. Louis, but he did something about it. He took to Twitter to explain why he left the stage in the middle of their set, and it’s pretty remarkable.
Quick note to those who were at the show last night. I’ve been doing this for 20 years and I’ve never walked of stage during a song before. For almost a whole song I watched a guy stand a row behind a girl flirting and then trying to kiss her. It was hard to tell what was really happening. At times she seemed ok with his advances but after the second time of watching her push his face and hands away and try to turn back to watch the show I asked the security guard to go check on them. He couldn’t see what I was pointing to and it was still happening I left the stage and walked straight for them, my mind an emotional blur. Security followed me.
“The man seemed dumbfounded when I showed up as if nothing was wrong. I don’t know what happened after. I went back to stage to finish the show. Security took it from there. I didn’t see them again after that. Maybe they were removed or just moved. Maybe they were in a relationship. Maybe they weren’t. Regardless what I saw from stage was disturbing to me and completely removed me from the mindset I need to be on stage. It wasn’t cute. It was alarming. I’m almost forty and flirting doesn’t look like that. Maybe It’s that I have a daughter or that I’m older.
“Maybe it’s that I watched this video not long before we played and I couldn’t shake it (video in tweet). I Really don’t know but it made me furious to watch a girl forcibly remove someone’s hands from her body multiple times. I still don’t feel great about how I handled this situation. I borderline blacked out in some weird rage mode. it makes me nervous to think about how I would handle situations like this in the future especially if it was with someone I knew or cared about especially if it is my daughter. I don’t really know what to say about it all. I’m sorry to my band for not communicating the situation better and leaving them standing on stage confused. And I’m sorry to fans who were equally confused and saw a bit of an unusual show.”
Whether he handled the situation properly or not, it doesn’t matter. His antics made the world more aware of a real problem at not just concerts, but any large social gathering. Concerts especially, are supposed to be a safe place for people to enjoy themselves and celebrate the purpose of music and art. Sexual assault and sexual harassment are never okay, but it’s especially a problem in settings in which you should never have to expect it.